tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8413778464611653442.post1096803077747645931..comments2023-09-15T05:39:40.040-07:00Comments on A(nother) Year of Online Dating: Real Simple's "Love Rules"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8413778464611653442.post-42177882298297310782009-01-22T06:58:00.000-08:002009-01-22T06:58:00.000-08:00Ily, I mentioned your comment to a co-worker whose...Ily, I mentioned your comment to a co-worker whose husband is Bengali and she was telling me what most participants in arranged marriages feel on this subject (learning to love someone). She said that usually they expect marriage to be a companionship that may grow into friendship and perhaps even love. <BR/><BR/>So yes, I think you're right: different people from different places may have a range of feelings about the issue.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02392660859563288564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8413778464611653442.post-76469822284629944942009-01-21T09:27:00.000-08:002009-01-21T09:27:00.000-08:00Hmm, I thought there were no rules to love...I won...Hmm, I thought there were no rules to love...<BR/><BR/>I wonder what the answer to #3 would be in a country where arranged marriages are common, and people get married for different reasons than we do. I bet they'd say the opposite, which is interesting.<BR/><BR/>On abscence, I think that if you love someone, absence is painful, and if you don't care about someone, you forget them after awhile. Oddly enough, I think this works better on inanimate objects, like that food from your childhood that you remember as being amazing, but when you try it again it isn't really that great.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I like this series, it's totally something I'd write about myself.Ilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8413778464611653442.post-76298510291558094182009-01-21T06:53:00.000-08:002009-01-21T06:53:00.000-08:00Note to self: SQ's life lessons are invaluable, es...Note to self: SQ's life lessons are invaluable, especially today's: <I>only bad relationships feel like work, good ones feel effortless</I>.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02392660859563288564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8413778464611653442.post-58389286046639275332009-01-21T03:21:00.000-08:002009-01-21T03:21:00.000-08:00Playing hard to get is bullshit to me. My mother...Playing hard to get is bullshit to me. My mother basically believed that any girl who wasn't playing hard to get was a total slut. But if society creates a system by which a girl is expected to flee before a a guy she likes, then what does she do when she encounters a guy she doesn't like? It becomes the same reaction which means that a guy can honestly claim that he had no idea whether she was in to him or not.<BR/><BR/>This is the bedrock of so many conflicts between the sexes. It spirals out of control from there.<BR/><BR/>As for "learning to love someone" I have definitely been taken in by that myth. I believed that relationships were supposed to be a lot of work. Now I have learned that only bad relationships feel like work, good ones feel effortless.Superquailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02758204872900554967noreply@blogger.com