tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8413778464611653442.post584037715848905116..comments2023-09-15T05:39:40.040-07:00Comments on A(nother) Year of Online Dating: Dating Standards/Second Date with AlexUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8413778464611653442.post-84570854095325489232009-12-23T00:32:07.365-08:002009-12-23T00:32:07.365-08:00As human beings, we have yet to fully understand h...As human beings, we have yet to fully understand how we work. Our instincts, our preconceived notions, are psychic structures that operate below our conscious level, etc., all kinds of things have an impact on how we experience other people. When something jumps out at you or niggles at you in the back of your mind the first time you meet someone, it's there for a reason. Whether or not it ends up being that little thing that leads to the destruction of the relationship, who knows? But it's very likely to be something that needs to be confronted and dealt with somewhere along the line.Superquailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02758204872900554967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8413778464611653442.post-23845191137814912522009-12-22T15:34:06.682-08:002009-12-22T15:34:06.682-08:00I've realized that the phenomenon Superquail i...I've realized that the phenomenon Superquail is mentioning has also applied to platonic relationships I've had that in the end, didn't work out. If something about a person bothers you in the beginning, it'll only bother you more as time goes on. If you care about the person, you can ignore or live with some or all of that stuff, but if the person wears on you way too much, it might not get to that point. So yeah...I think that the theory probably holds.Ilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8413778464611653442.post-45583322448690121352009-12-14T15:49:21.277-08:002009-12-14T15:49:21.277-08:00Before my beloved H, I had dated 6 other guys, and...Before my beloved H, I had dated 6 other guys, and at the beginning of every relationship I would notice one or two things that bothered me a little. I would let these things go in the light of the overwhelming fun I was having with the sexy new guy, but invariably when that buzz wore off, the things I noticed at the beginning were the things that drove me nuts at the end. So when people say that you're being picky, weigh that against dating a guy for several months before deciding that you were right about him in the first place. I say go with your instinct.<br /><br />That's my 2 cents.Superquailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02758204872900554967noreply@blogger.com