Thursday, June 26, 2008

It's been six months

To the day since I started this online dating adventure. In that time I've learned a few things:

1. If someone has only posted one picture, that's a bad sign—especially if he is reluctant/outright refuses to post another photo. He's likely not the person he says he is.

2. If your match percentage is below 65% with someone, that is probably for a reason. Trust your gut and your reading of his profile, and spare yourself the painfully horrid date that is likely to ensue should you ignore the bad feelings.

3. If you are at all like me, the people you are looking to attract on the site are likely as shy as you. Therefore, you simply cannot sit back and wait for a message. If you want to get to know someone better, step up and do it.

4. Only leave your instant message feature active at night if you are interested in receiving sketchy propositions from near and far. I've gotten messages in all sorts of variations on the English language from guys in my hometown as well as people in the Middle East, Asia, Europe—basically anywhere where there is a member of this site—who are interested in a simple chat, or a web chat. Urg.

5. Finally, don't be afraid to frequently edit your profile. The better it reflects you and your true interests and personality, the better. Since beginning thrice-weekly updates (give or take) on my profile, I've been receiving significantly more profile views and messages.

Here's to another six months! Who knows what lies in store for me?


Ily said...

One of the problems I encountered on OkCupid was that all of the people I matched with were EXTREMELY GEEKY. I mean, I know I'm a nerd about a lot of things, but extreme geekitude is a culture, one that I'm not really part of...I mean I JUST learned what "XD" is!

(However, my all-time favorite overheard dating advice remains:
Girl: "Why can't I get a date?"
Guy: "Try geeks! A lot of us actually clean up well.")

Anyway, any thought of branching out to other sites? Craigslist WILL give you lots to write about... :-)

Superquail said...

Way to maintain a commitment! This ability bodes well for all aspects of your future. Someday you may even be able to write a book about your experiences. ;)

Yours said...

Oh, I fully agree about the turning "off" the IM feature! The dating site horror stories abound if IM is left on... lots of 19 year old kids lookin' for looove. ;) Likin' the blog, just stumbled across it. Good luck on the remaining 6 months!