It seems we have a fetishist in our midst

I've recently had a number of profile views by this guy in Rhode Island. I frequently get views from people in other states or even countries, but they never look more than once. I usually chalk this up to the fact that I've written a geography test on the site, and I figure that these people have taken the test and have decided to look at my profile so as to determine what kind of person would write such a thing. However, multiple views from a guy in RI? I decided to look at his profile to investigate.

As it turns out, we have a fairly high match-percentage and a number of things in common. I messaged him yesterday, asking if he'd be up for a long-distance pen-pal. It was only after pressing send that I noticed he has a thing about liking attractive feet on his profile. Here's where it gets weirder: On my profile, in the section about what people first notice about me, I list that I have green eyes. It seems like three out of four people comment on them first over anything else. Then I go on to say that the thing I'm most surprised people don't notice is the fact that I have disproportionately large feet.

Could this be it? Does this guy search for profiles that mention feet? I haven't gotten a message back from him—which is probably a good thing—but I'm still curious. Was it my random comment about my feet that has caused him to view my profile so many times?

Sent a message—got nothing back

I messaged I guy two days ago who's new to the site and has a really high match-percentage with me. Strange user name (TizzyTool), but his profile was amusing and interesting and I thought I would give it a shot. Unfortunately, I've heard nothing from him. This is not at all uncommon in the world of online dating—I've received many messages to which I've never responded—but since I haven't been corresponding with anyone for a while, I was hoping for something.

I've known ever since I joined (and before that too, of course) that I am not comfortable dating someone who does drugs. Therefore, anytime I come across a guy who's profile sounds great, I always check the sidebar to see if he does drugs. If he says he does, I immediately block him so that I'm not tempted by his profile again. Last night, after being messaged by someone who says he "sometimes" does drugs on his profile, I added this to the "you should message me if" box on my own profile:

(You should message me if…) "you don't do drugs. That may sound simplistic, but, after four months on this site, I've realized that I really have no tolerance for people who do drugs. It's a lifestyle choice I really do not understand and cannot support. Therefore, if you do any, no matter how infrequently, don't bother."

Update to previous post

I just went back to the dating site and looked at Cocky Guy's profile. Wow. Bad. He spells music "muzaq" and, frankly, is really not attractive in any of his four photos. The impressions I got from his first e-mail—that he's very concerned with all things trendy and his style of writing is so cocky that I can't even think straight—are beyond true when looking at his full profile. Sorry, Superquail and *ily, I think I'm going to not think any more about this guy.


Oh, and I haven't heard from Zeke in quite a while. I was the last to send a message, so I think I'm going to give up on that front too.

The Cocky, Supposedly-native Guy

Since I last posted, there has been little new to report in my online dating world. I convinced one friend to rejoin the dating site, after having been off of it for a year. We filled out her profile together, and did our best not to put really silly stuff in, while also trying not to sound completely boring. As I think I mentioned before, writing a profile is really hard.

While I have not received more than a couple new e-mails or missed IMs in the last week and a half, I have heard from two of you that I should give the cocky, supposedly-native resident of my city a chance. I guess there's no real reason not to. However, I thought I'd post his e-mail to me here, so I can get another opinion or two before I message him. Here it is:

Woah, an actual native - me too, though I've never actually lived in the city. +1 on Set, my friends hate when I pull at that game - mixes so well to challenge drunkness vs. matching patterns or colors.

Impressive SF foodie'ism list; how about Cha Ya or Burma Superstar, even indian pizza @ Zante's?

I'll leave it at that, folks don't often reply on this medium anyhows. Cheers.


What do you think?

Spring Break

Zeke's been on his, now I'm on mine. I haven't heard from him in a while. Oh well. I did hear from a few random guys on the site, who were interesting my one part of my profile or another. There are a couple who look pretty decent, but I've yet to e-mail either back. One agreed with my assessment that my life is an awful lot like an Avenue Q character's (Princeton's), but he was quick to add that it wasn't a bad thing. The other sounded a little cocky and made the claim that he's also a native of my city—but he's not. Call me picky, but if you live on the other side of the bay and not in the city proper, you are a native of the area, but not the city. Should I get over this and message him back?