Wednesday, January 7, 2009

15 Responses

After receiving three responses in the first 30 minutes of having my ad up on Craigslist, I ended up getting 12 more in the following day. Amazingly, they all seem to be responses to my ad and not just random spambots; however, they are of varying quality.

1. Australia guy. As I said, I did e-mail him back, but that exchange died quickly and I expect nothing of it.

2. Just-got-out-of-a-4-year-relationship guy. Hmm, maybe.

3. The local who likes to go dancing and clubbing. I don't think I'm going to go anywhere with him.

4. This guy has just moved back from another part of the state (the same place Sandy lives), and is on Craigslist because he is "tired of the same girls from the bars." He's a possibility.

5. This one sounds OK (though he's short) but he says he apologizes "that I don't send pictures out due to my job but I know I won't disappoint." He can't send pictures from his own e-mail because of his job? What does he do? This just seems weird to me.

6. He sent a picture and is about my age, but barely wrote anything and lists his interests as "sports, tv, movies, listening to music and hanging out." Hanging out? Since when is that an interest worth listing in an answer to a personal ad?

7. Honesty man. He opened his response by saying, "first of all I wont lie to you at all thats a promise." He says he's an Italian Asian mix and I wonder if he's actually from another country as his English is not quite right given that he says he's very educated. He sent a picture and looks nice enough. He's an option.

8. Remember how Superquail wrote in her ad for me, "I don't want a guy…who honestly believes that he is a more interesting person just because he smokes pot…"? Well, this guy just sent a photo of him blowing a big cloud of smoke towards the camera. It's actually kind of an arty shot, but that's so not the point.

9. OC man. He's from there and is going to be in a city about 50 miles south of me for five days and wonders (in very odd, poorly line-broken English) if I might want to meet him during that time. Hells no.

10. This one simply said, "You are real Classey too! I can just tell!"

11. He sent a message asking how my holiday season was and stating that he doesn't usually do internet dating. No photo, but he said he had a hard time trying to upload one on Craigslist. I could get a photo—and maybe I will—but I'm concerned because he's got an area code that isn't immediately close by. Actually, come to think of it, isn't it weird to put your phone number in the first e-mail? Wait a second: he didn't respond to anything in my post. Spam?

12. All he asked was, "What's a K-bird?" I didn't respond to him, but for those of you who don't know, Superquail's nickname for me is Katiebird.

13. He is perhaps the best prospect of the bunch.What do you think?

"I saw your ad and it piqued my interests. I just finished my residency and now I'm looking to meet someone new for fun, friendship, and possibly more. You sound like a cool and interesting person that I would like to get to know. I'm down to Earth, easy going, fun, loves to laugh, very open-minded, and honest and trustworthy. I have no dramas in my life, besides what goes on at work, no children, no previous ex wife, no skeletons in the closet, and i'm an all around good person -- no bad karma here, just good vibes. I love to surf, bodyboard, body surf (been in the ocean surfing for the past 15 years), swim, run, paddle canoes, spear fish, snorkel, and lift weights. I also love to sing, play the guitar (i've been playing classical guitar for 14 years), dance, draw, write poetry and stories, work with my hands, play pool, watch live music, etc... I also like cooking and make great pasta with salmon. I've also lived in South America before, and have traveled quite extensively."

He even included a link to his music. I've not listened to it yet, but that seems nice. There were two pictures as well, and he looks nice. Should I message him back? He offered to take me out for drinks.

14. This was one of the most interesting responses. This guy was writing on behalf of a friend whom he feels needs a date. He wrote:

"Hi! So I came across your craigslist ad, and.. well….this may sound a little strange, but I am looking to hook my good friend (& roommate) up for a date. He would never take the time to post/respond, and I owe him.. so…. Heres the deal, he just moved to city and doesn’t know anyone in the area, and I know for a fact he is tired of dealing with the type of girls you meet at a bar/club :-/

Anyways… ill get to the point… my buddy’s name is jon. He just turned 25, white, 6’2”, about 205lbs of pure man muscle (no homo) .. college graduate, entrepreneurial business… Successful business owner of 6+ years... VERY hard worker… always up for a good time (weekend party, bars, you name it..)…. works out regularly… athletic… a DAMN good wakeboarder/snowboarder… motivated, focused, down to earth, funny, honest, easygoing… ive known this kid since freshman year of highschool, and I can honestly say he is a great standup guy. …

o ya, and he loves photos of veggies too, but then again, who doesnt?"

Anyway, as much as I might want some pure man muscle, this guy seems to be too much of a partier and a bit more of the frat-boy type (I know I said I wouldn't type-cast people) than I care for.

15. Eggplant guy. "I think its organic eggplant. I don't know..i am no vegetable expert, but I sure do love em. Anywho, I am not very good at being "online" so here goes; I like listening to records, reading bukowski, and just being kind of existentialist and completely happy and satisfied with life (i know im a paradigm).

If you wanna maybe eat some delicious Ramen, hang out, listen to good music you should probably start talking to me soon...please? :)"

So who should I respond to? Anyone?


Lanafactrix said...

I say go for 4, 7, 13, and 15. As for five, maybe he works at a place with a really really picky firewall--my boyfriend's work blocks everything from Youtube to Google chat.

Superquail said...

I think 13, 14 and 15 are all worth a shot. 14 was pretty much doing for his friend what I was doing with my profile for you, so that might be a good place to start. He does sound like a bit of a frat boy, but you have to understand, that's the side of himself that his guy-friend knows about. It's possible this dude has more to him than his friend knows about, though of course, that can cut both ways.

Katie said...

Thanks for the advice, ladies. I'll definitely e-mail 13 and 15 got another vote from a friend today, so, despite my initial reservations, I will message him too. Why not? Right?

Lana, I'll e-mail 4 and 7 too, if for no other reason than you said I should. I'll let you know how those two shake out.

Superquail said...

Listen to Lanafactrix. She knows all.

Lanafactrix said...


Yeah, SQ, I had much the same thought about 14. My feeling about this sort of thing is that you might always make a friend--hence 7, who sounds awfully interesting.

Superquail said...

I have to disagree with Lanafactrix on number 7. Maybe I've just developed an allergy to badly written English after having been over-exposed to it here in China, but if a person doesn't know how to use an apostrophe, they ain't nothing but a hound dog, crying all the time, they ain't never caught a rabbit, and they ain't no friend of mine.

Katie said...

Number 7 only attracted mild interest from me. #14 is my favorite of the bunch, and I'm going to respond to him right now. I'll let you know if I message the others.

Superquail said...

I've got an interest in how these things go for you. If it goes well, then I get to snag a bit of the credit, but if not . . . then I guess I get a bit of the blame. Yikes!

Katie said...

Hey, I was the one who decided to post it, so while you definitely have a stake in the results, don't feel bad if nothing comes from it.